Resilience has been described as your "self-righting tendencies" It is "both the capacity to be bent without breaking and the capacity, once bent, to spring back".
Resilience is what enables you to become more aware of your feelings, and to choose the appropriate response. Think of yourself facing a set of traffic lights when your emotions are aroused. You have a space into which you can step to respond, rather than blindly reacting. Being resilient will allow you to choose between STOP, SLOW DOWN and GO.
Of all the skills I have learnt and re-learnt, resilience remains the most challenging. People often tell me how lucky I am to be able to control my stress and remain calm under the most difficult of situations. If only......! You see, we are drawn to teach that which we most need to learn.
Today, we are all facing economic and social uncertainty. You may have a job right now, but will it be there for you tomorrow? You may have your own small business, but will it survive and thrive? You may be unhappy in your job and looking for another opportunity elsewhere. But do you have the guts to make the change? You may head a de-motivated team. Are you helping or hindering? Whatever your circumstances, increasing your resilience will be of enormous benefit to you.
So what can you do to increase your resilience? Here are 9 essential strategies:
1. Develop a support network at home, among friends, colleagues and your community. Actively seek help and support and be there for others.
2. Accept that some crises are beyond your control. Life is like a deck of cards. Every day, it is shuffled and a new set of circumstances are presented.
3. Realize that change is part of life. You can't change events but you can change the way you interpret and react to them. Try to accept this and look ahead.
4. Make your goals realistic and take regular small steps towards achieving them. Ask yourself, "What's the one small step I can take today to move me closer to my goal?"
5. Take action by doing as much as you can rather than avoiding problems and hoping they will go away. Don't waste time agonizing over decision-taking. Decide. And go with the decision.
6. Ask the Universe what it is trying to tell you when dealing with loss, hardship or emotional problems. Accept the learning and move on. Next time you will be better prepared.
7. Remain positive even when everything feels desperate and be confident in your strengths and abilities.
8. Look at the big picture and the long term perspective and don't blow the significance of the event out of proportion. Will it really matter in a few months?
9. Look after yourself – you can deal with life's blows so much better if you are healthy, fit and optimistic.
Do yourself a favour. Visualize yourself as a rubber ball rather than a glass one. The rubber ball will bounce back. The glass one will fall and shatter.
Hoda Lacey supports people working in small and medium sized businesses so that they can be happier, more engaged, more productive, and create more profit.
Contact her on 01923 828085 or visit her website www.HodaLacey.co.uk and download a FREE guide on how to have a difficult conversation.